Moral question: Is it wrong for a Christian couple to choose not to have children?
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No
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No
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We can reference where children can be a blessing. There is no scripture pointing that having no children is against Gods word.
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Without, say, serious medical reason not to, that’s a sign of trouble, for sure. It’s a sign that they have not fully committed to their one-flesh union which is realized in their children.
Typically, it means one or both of the partners want an easy “out” of their relationship.
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Another good question would be why churches don’t have more resources for childless and infertile couples.
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I dont believe thats a problem. Its like a man being a eunich. Some are that way some are made that way and some choose that. I know marriage is different than that. I find no prohibition is scripture.
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If you are aborting babies as a form of birth control…yes it is wrong.
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God told Adam and Eve, “Be fruitful and multiply” When Noah and family disembarked the ark God told them to be fruitful and multiply. Children are a blessing from the Lord. Happy is the man who has a quiver full.
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I am baffled by this question. Lets turn it around: why should we ‘make’ kids???? In a lot of churches ppl are almost forced to have kids in order to obtain favor and acceptance in the eyes of fellow church members. Whether they can afford them, take care of their emotional and mental health, etc etc. Dont you think this produces broken ppl and troubled marriages?? Men and women going outside of marriage just create babies…. is that right?!?
Seek first the Kingdom!! And remember Paul says it is better to stay single if you want to work for the Lord. Important is to have God first in the marriage and do His will, with or without offspring. Either way is fine as long as He is worshipped in all situations. -
The #1 reason why I want kids is to create more worship and praise for God.
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Abortion-yes
Personal decision to just not have any-no -
Children are an inheritance of the Lord.
Its up to you whether or not you claim your inheritance
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Jesus taught that there are eunuchs for the kingdom. That means that they would not have children and they were seeking to live in order to expand God’s kingdom on earth. If it were an automatic sin to not have children, then the eunuchs would have been in simple rebellion. But, Jesus does not condemn them–so…no.
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Also… many Christians might not be very good parents. Just because they are saved doesn’t mean that their temperament is right for parenting.
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Why would a married couple not want kids when they can?
I don’t think its justified..
2 kids is OK.The bible calls us to multiply the earth..
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My wife and I went through several failed attempts and to get pregnant , then several failed adoption attempts. We had thought it was not to be in God’s will for us. Then after 21 years of marriage came the gift of our daughter.
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Not wrong but a missed blessing
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I know the argument can be made but I’ve never felt convicted of my choice.
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I don’t think so, but they miss out on the experience that matures them. They can serve still.
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For those who do believe it’s wrong for a Christian couple to not have kids. Say a woman or a man whose a Christian decides not to have children, but wants to marry would it be suggested they never marry and if so would you be forbidding a Christian to get married. I am asking only to get perspectives not to debate. Thanks in advance ♥️
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It depends on the reason.
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NO its not wrong nor is mentioned as such
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No it’s not wrong. That’s a choice each couple has to make and nobody can tell them they’re wrong for choosing to have kids or not.
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No. It is not biblical
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Just do not use abortion as birth control!
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You know there is woman and man that can not have children. Also I understand if you can’t have children because of your health issues. Children are a blessing from God, enjoy them. I know I enjoyed my own children and now enjoying my 22 grandchildren. And now going to be a great,great grandma what a blessing ? ?
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Wrong (Gn. 1.26-28; 9.1; Ps. 127.3-5; 128; Mc. 10.13-14.
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We are given free will and we are given the parameters to live by… this idea was not a command it was an invitation to do sexual things to one another in the purpose to have as many children as you want….its a eat the meat queation… if it doesn’t bother your conscience eat the meat…
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Why would a Christian couple choose to not have children?
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No where in the Bible does it say it’s a sin to not have children. Plus – it doesn’t matter if the couple say they aren’t going to have babies- if God wanted them to have babies then no action on their part would stop his will.
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No. It is not a sin. But when you bear a child and kill it before it comes out (abortion) because you dont want a child, thats a yes.
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Well God does say be fruitful and multiply. Do God does want you to have kids to increase godliness on the earth. The only exception is if you have health reasons like if your docty told you not to have kids. My doctor told my wife and I not to have any more kids and the 1 time we didn’t use protection she got pregy. We decided to go with pregnancy because to abort is worshipping a false god Moloch do we decided to risk my eifesy and baby’s life. They are both alive today and our little art Julian has a touch of autism but I love my kitty guy. He is so unlike us. The rest of the family–4 folks are introverted–the kids rarely talk so his extroverted self is very entertaining. He runs in class. He is an actor like his dad. There are autistic actors. We love our baby boy. Our next oldest child is an adult–8 years older. It is a struggle,-yes. Children are arrow and blessed is the man who quiver is full. So go multiply. That’s one reason God bought you together. Plus, it’s fun having kids. Yes. I’m talking about the sex (Song of Solomon 2: 6). This is a sex position used by Solomon and his bride. God created sex. Once you are married the Bible says the marriage bed is pure.
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Interesting question. I do not believe so as this is a very personal decision between the couple and God.
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It’s wrong. It defiles God intention, Genesis 1v28.
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No. If God is calling you for something different than the normal family thing then listen to him.
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For christians – it is moraly wrong.
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I’ve never gave it any though but He did say to multiply………hmmmm?
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Who are we to tell God what we will and won’t do! What He cannot do through us!
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There’s no dictate to have children in the first place in the Christian era.
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9 But avoid foolish questions, and genealogies, and contentions, and strivings about the law; for they are unprofitable and vain.
10 A man that is an heretick after the first and second admonition reject;
11 Knowing that he that is such is subverted, and sinneth, being condemned of himself.
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So are you asking if using birth control inside of a marriage is a sin? If so, then I would say no. Consider a family that is poor and unable to provide for children. Would you suggest that God would want that family to have children anyway without the certainty of being able to feed them? Or that He would say that a married couple should abstain (even though Paul directly addresses a man and wife denying one another.) Sex inside of a marriage strengthens the bond between a couple and I believe it was created for both the act of procreation as well as that bond. Would you suggest a couple that is physically unable to have children due to health issues abstain because it’s purely for the pleasure? Where is the line drawn? If I have 3 kids and don’t want more, is that wrong? How about 10? I believe if you are walking with God and prayerfully listening for His guidance, He will show you what you need to know. And that includes in the area of deciding if a child is right for you. What if you’re a missionary and having a child would hinder your mission work? God created woman as a companion to man first. (Gen 2:20-25) So suggesting that a couple not marry simply because they feel children aren’t right for them goes against that creation. Plus, I believe that if God truly wants a couple to have a child, no form of birth control will prevent that.
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What about couples who are Christians who meet later in life? Either age or medical conditions or both can come into play here. A marriage can still glorify God and reflect the gospel if the married couple doesn’t have children or goes into the marriage knowing they won’t. The ultimate purpose of marriage is to reflect Christ’s love for the church.
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Choosing?????
Its not wrong. Its foolish. -
Thanks everyone for your answers.
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Children are a heritage from the Lord. Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them! That’s a quote from the Psalms.
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Married People without our kids are legends Can focus on the word ???
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If it is for selfish reasons, I’d say yes.
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None of our business.. not an moral issue imho
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No
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Be fruitful and multiply, unless you don’t feel like it.
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