What about separating from adict spouse. Just to live seperate but not divorcing…
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Hi natosha.. I am not an expert on this topic cause I am still single..?.. but as your family in Christ I would say it is wise to seek God’s will in everything specially life changing decisions like this. Seek God prayerfully and through his Word.. with this, you can also seek counsel with a mature Christian in your church whom you can trust.. sharing to you Matthew 6:33..
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God doesn’t ask us to stay in bad situations but He asks us to respect marriage as a lifelong union except in specific circumstances. If we separate other than within what God sets out for divorce, He expects us to abide by our marriage vows & not get into a relationship with someone else. I don’t believe the Bible tells us we have to continue to live in a bad situation, only to not replace that situation with another union. In addition we should still show God’s version of love to our separated spouse and if he wants to mend His ways and walk with Christ we should welcome a reunion.
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Do what you have to do to stay healthy to help your spouse through it. If it were me, I would stay with family if my husband’s situation got serious and try to support him and seek him the best help until further notice. All the best. I hope and pray you find clarity in YHWH’s guidance and that your marriage lives on through this trial to be long and successful ??
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Being that I would not want to cause you to stumble on my understanding I would recommend that you get a digital bible (I prefer KJV) and Blue Letter Bible ORG is also a very good help. search words like wife and marriage take notes pray. This is my best advise and how I have resolved issues in my marriage (No addictions though)
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Wow this is just a broad concern. But one thing is for sure, WISDOM AND PROTECTION comes from Jesus our Savior. You have to pray for these things. You are impressively brave to be facing this with resolve, and seeking answers from a Christian perspective. You are already on the right track.
That being said: Is there a professional or counsellor you are talking to about it? How long has your husband been an addict? Is he being abusive to you and your family? Has he sought professional help? Has he tried quitting? Is he intent on quitting? Is he a Christian? If he is, how does his belief affect his actions and decisions? If he isn’t and you are, what are his views of it. And so on and so forth. These are some vital question we need to answer so we’d know how look at the situation with more clarity and objectivity.
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You have to stay safe you can’t help if you’re in trouble I just lived through 2 years of alcohol and a year of an affair God had to take my wife to rock bottom so she would turn back to him and me! Hardest thing I have ever done but I would not change who we are together now…
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No. Seek counseling, seek God’s centering in the marriage. Maybe different rooms, but leaving the house almost always ends in divorce. Whenever the other gets the things they are addicted to, always throw those things out when they are not looking. Separate bank accounts if they are spending money on those things unwisely. Do not support or help the habit, but if you leave, they will do it freely and will ultimately end a divorce. 3 strands is not quickly broken, so how can 1 strand stick by itself. The answer is to include God, not separate everybody including God being the center.
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That can be warranted. But it would be good to have godly well-informed counsel. Pastoral counseling can be good for this but I would strongly suggest that it would be a pastor with some training on addiction. And in the off chance there is domestic violence in there please make sure the pastor knows what he is doing. I respect the role of ministers of the gospel but as an independent therapist I have to say some pastors have no idea what the heck they are doing on some of these complicated matters. A Bible believing Christian therapist could be a good route both for discerning whatever the right decision is for you as well as how to walk out the process of separating in a healthy way for yourself and if you have kids for them too.
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If ur not happy in your marriage. Although it’s rough. It’s ok to divorce
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I will give a little more history if you have time to read. My husband and I met at a church singles thing. We were both Sunday school teachers. Been married 26 years. After we got married I found out he was doing drugs. He even told me “everything but IV” which was a lie. I found needles and paraphernalia. Plus he got hepatitis C. Soon after that he hurt his back, had surgery, and has been abusing opiates for 20 years. I have begged, pleaded, threatened. He just says “I only take enough to not hurt” so he is now taking his whole months worth in ONE week (extremely high during this time and very attentive) then either goes into withdrawal or spendis 1/4 of our income buying it illegally. What he is able to buy doesn’t get him high so he is angry, agitated, passive aggressive to me and our kids for 3 weeks. Its like jekle & hyde. He does not take any responsibility at all. I have to do everything both parents do plus I work about 60 hours a week. He gets disability. He has never been an example for our son which breaks my heart.
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That is fine
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