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How can we keep other Christians accountable without being accused as ‘judgmental’
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I show them in the word of God..n tell them look God says in Ezekiel 33..that we are watchman..we need to warn n tell..and its all in love and if they dont like it then they need to take it up with God bc He is the one whos saying it..I’m just showing u where in the Word. ?? the key is alllll in love. And then allow God to minister. Be blessed!
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Correct one another with gentleness humbleness and kindness.
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Quote scripture. I find applying the scripture to myself (knowing it speaks to their issue) gets the point across. For example if i see a brother or sister involved in a sinful behavior…..i talk to them and mention how I used to do this or that until I realized this scripture says not to etc. Ie, applying it to myself and letting the holy spirit speak and convict them.
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Does the average Christian have the right to call priests/preachers into question if need be?
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Are “being judgmental” and “condemning” the same? What is bad, detrimental, undesireable behavior has to be made known. Can one claim to be a Christian and not correct behavior – Leviticus 19:17&18?
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2 Tim 4:2
Preach the word; be instant in season, out of season; reprove, rebuke, exhort with all longsuffering and doctrine. -
I think being “judgemental” has been vilified to almost extinction by the post modern era of tolerance, personal distinctiveness and lack of absolutes. It is culturally impermissible to pass judgement because it goes against tolerance and would be appealing to some form or another of an objective standard.
That being said, you cannot live without passing judgement. In fact, accusing someone of being judgemental is in itself being judgemental. Calling out sin is judgement. Paul in his various letters to the churches was judging their conduct and calling it out. There are therefore parameters for passing judgement and acting on it.
What we are not allowed to do is to condemn. We cannot sit on God’s judgement seat and decide this one is not fit for forgiveness, this one is etc.
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1 Cor. 5:12-13 “What business is it of mine to judge those outside the church? Are you not to judge those inside? 13 God will judge those outside. “Expel the wicked person from among you.”
We are allowed to “judge” those inside the church. Now, this should be done in love, and follow the model of correction Jesus outlined in Mat. 18:15-20, but ultimately it should result in church discipline if the person desires to remain in sin.
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Use the Word of God, don’t direct them that’s the proper way because they will use the word of God against you. Matthew 7:1
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Whoever told you that Christians are not to judge at all are illiterate and ignorant about the gospel.
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Make them first understand the importance of correction ?
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Are you so full of yourself? Do you think that you are better than the others?
Yes?
Keep yourself humble. Think that other people are more important than yourself.
Humble yourself, and stay humble. Then, people won’t be judgmental about you, and you won’t have any problem keeping others accountable.
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If you are a faithful Christian, you will be accused. You can’t avoid it. Count it as a badge of approval from above.
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The Bible doesn’t shy away from judgement like we do. We are told told to judge ourselves. Judge amongst ourselves. We are going to judge angels. The bible doesn’t shy away from judgement or judging. One another. Here’s a thing. When we judge other saints it’s not with the intention to condemn them. But as Paul teach, rebuke, correct…we are never to shy away those things. The one who doesn’t want tobe rebuked it’s to his detriment
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The Bible says to judge righteously.
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you will always be accused of being judgemental,people who say that are judging you and so being hypocrites.
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You can’t. That’s the point. Be brave!
Now I pray to God that ye do no evil; not that we should appear approved, but that ye should do that which is honest, though we be as reprobates -
Live The Scriptures Before Them .
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If you’re persecuted for righteousness’ sake, then you are living the scriptures before them.
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Christian’s aren’t judging anyone or anything. We are simply relaying the message regarding judgements that God has already made.
If the Word of God offends, it shows a love for sin within.
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I just share what I’ve experienced, and leave it to them to take it or leave it.
If someone gives me a viewpoint I’ll consider it.
BUT,
if one gets to the point where they try to force their views, that person likely is just a carnal, biblical legalist. And I don’t lend an ear to ANY of it.? -
Quote scripture in context, that is directly connected to their behavior.
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If they really are Christians, then they should know the meaning of accountability. The doctrine of Sanctification is very clear in that area, no gray area there because the Holy Spirit will constantly remind them.
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Discernment and judgement are two very different things.
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Well, I’ve found that we must be willing to accept criticism and correction from others without getting angry.That definitely includes me! I am sometimes proud and stubborn so I need to be understanding and willing learn. I also take it to mean that the person correcting me must have no agenda and a loving spirit.
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It’s not up to us to hold others accountable
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The best way is to not point at an individual themselves… ever. Point to the doctrine, point to the intent behind the comment. Never use the name of the individual, and respond with scripture.
Remember the issue isn’t with the individual it’s with the idea…
Destroy their intent – and you’ve destroyed the idea… that is sufficient.
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Keeping other Christians accountable is the right way to judge. We are to judge our brothers and sisters in Christ with love and truth. The problem is alot of the times when people judge it is hypocritically. They judge someone for their sin while they still have a big sin they’re dealing with. You can only judge a brother helpfully when you gave overcome that sin yourself.
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Biblical warrant and basis of the accountability.
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First you have to determine if you’re dealing with people who are Christian’s. Usually when you approach a brother or sister in Christ they wont accuse you of being judgmental. It’s the unbelievers who love to abuse that scripture with no understanding of it’s TRUE meaning.
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Don’t judge someone you don’t have authority over. But if you have something against them, bring it to their attention before bringing it to the authorities.
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Be accused of whatever, we’re called to keep each accountable. With love but with truth. First one on one, then as a group, then with a clergy member if necesary. If none of that works, then treat them like they are not one of the family anymore. Meaning, pray for them, invite them to church, fellowship with them like you would with someone who doesn’t know God.
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“All Scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness;”
2 Timothy 3:16 NASB -
try to do a study in the word with them, let them know if conflict comes up that your not signaling them out but that your trying to hold them accountable and you ask of them to do the same with you.
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The one who love you the most will tell you the most truth (Paul Washer) if someone does not understand this he, or she, will always accuse you being judgmental. It is the pride that says “you are judgmental” the pride ?
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Good question. I suppose you have to turn them over to the enemy as Paul did.
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say the truth in love to them, make sure we r accountable too
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A wise man loves correction and a fool can’t stand it. That’s a paraphrase from the old testament.
You’ll be called judgmental but we are to let other Christians know what God’s word says. It is God in his word judging them, not us. Going beyond that and thinking or feeling different about them in our heart that is judgment and God says not to do that.
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The majority of today’s “decision for Christ Christians ” have never bothered to study the Pauline epistles. So what do you expect ?
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God will make people accountable not our job
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By teachings
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Can you give us an example? Accountable to “what standard”?
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Let’s get the proper interpretation of Jesus when He admonished us “to judge not lest ye be judged.” Let’s continue Matt.7, v. 1 to:
“2] For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.
[3] And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?
[4] Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye?
[5] Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye.” -
We need to continue reading in Matthew 7 to get the whole story. Verse 6 “Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.” So we must judge who is a “dog” or a “swine” who will trample our pearls underfoot or tear us apart. Verses 15-16 “Watch out for false prophets. They come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ferocious wolves. By their fruit you will recognize them.” And, we must judge who is a false prophet.
Is this contradictory? No! Earlier Jesus refers to a critical spirit, judgmentalism. Later Jesus refers to discernment, righteous judgment. Non-judgmentalism does not mean a Pollyanna naivety regarding sin. What is does mean is joining Jesus who did not come to condemn sinners, but to save sinners from sin.
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Read 1 and 2 Corinthians 50 times…
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Be a friend love them pray for them.Like Rick said so well truth in love.
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Give them scripture that shows why they are wrong and most importantly, forgive them. For if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will the Heavenly father for give you your trespasses. Remember Jesus died on a cross forgiving them who put him there.
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Who cares if you are accused of being judgemental. Keep the beam out of your eye so you can help your brothers and sisters keep the splinters out of theirs.
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Consider the possibility that people who perceived sound doctrine as “judge mental” really have no desire to change. People who desire change will accept accountability because their desire will be to be please God. Some people are not going to be happy with instruction and some will later come to the knowledge of our Lord. Say what you need to say in love and pray for God to open their eyes.
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Macy Carolina, accountable to whom?
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