Small churches make up about 70 % of the COG…

Small churches make up about 70 % of the COG and it is these churches that I am most interested in. How can they have a rich church family experience? How can they feel like they are whole and complete just as they are? How can the pastor and the lay leaders keep them from turning against each other? At the same time what can they do to feel that they are accomplishing what God wants them to in their particular situation?
If you are a member of one of these congregations; what can you do to strengthen and bring a sense of contentment and yet find a way to grow? So often the preacher to these churches fuss at them for not being spiritual enough and the group often turns negative to the larger churches accusing them of becoming modern and of losing their first love. This breeds an attitude of spiritual pride all the while casting the blame somewhere else.