Is it ever acceptable to lie to not hurt someone?
Just for example, let’s say a friend works really hard to make you a meal and asks you how it taste. Would you tell them it doesn’t taste good if it isn’t?
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Depends on your perspective. Some would say that you need to let that person know so they can improve. But some would say that they just need the encouragement and support so as to make it better.
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Just say it’s aight lol ?
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It is better to tell the truth so that it will give him a lesson to improve his cooking, otherwise you are just fooling him.
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I think a better example to look at is if someone comes to your door and says I’m going to kill your family, are they here? In this case they are and in that situation I would lie for the sole purpose of protecting and preserving life which as Christians we should do. We should though afterwards repent for lying and thank him for protecting you and your family. Just a thought
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It is not acceptable to lie… yes, truth hurts but it builds… You can definitely tell the truth AND consider the receptor’s feelings, by wording it in a way that does not sound like an attack.
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“Speak the truth in love”. Harder to do than it seems bc I’m always off one side or the other. You could say “tastes amazing” which could mean either, and you could say “I like the ___” or “This would be interesting to try if you____”… Sometimes you have to be clear and say “I’m just not used to this about it” or just ask a stream of questions
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I always be thankful that I have food when so many people don’t have anything. I would treat it like it is God is taking care of my daily need and we don’t know when will be my last meal. When you live a life of abundance, you lose track and only have picky taste bud.
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I don’t have this problm because my voracious appetite allows me to eat whatever is served as long as its somewhat edible. ??
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Don’t have to lie ever. One can be very complimentary and gracious.
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I think you can answer honestly, and still not be rude or hurtful.
“I can taste the love and hard work that went into this meal!” 😀
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yes, it’s called prudence
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You cite this after saying it tastes bad:
Have I become your enemy, because I tell you the truth? -
No it is not and yes I would, respectfully.
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That is your taste not your taste… Sometimes we expect God to give what is the standard your taste but he give his best but you don’t appreciate. So you can tell also to God this is what I want… Appreciate things because they did that with their best only to build relationship.
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Usually we must not ask how the food tastes. The guests always make a compliment to show his gratitude. I would say ” thank you for disturbing yourself. We feel the love you put in making this food “.
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I hate this topic, people don’t realize how judgmental they can be when just “telling the truth”. Truth spoken in love is something else, but who of us is always ready to respond like that?? I mean y’all are talking about how food tastes, but there are so many intricate interactions between people that makes this a really difficult question
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We often confuse “Objective” morality to “Absolute” morality.
Absolute means you have a hard standard which is true in all circumstances, and would say that it’s NEVER right to lie.
Objective means there is a set standard, but you have to make a judgement as to what’s morally right in a given situation. -
You could say it tastes good because it came from good hands.
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Tell them that taste is not all that it’s cracked up to be.
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No. God hates lies (Proverbs 12:22). Be ready to tell the truth without unnecessarily hurting someone. Sometimes, it’s good for a person to be hurt. Discern truth in yourself, and you will be able to navigate it for others. Keeping something back isn’t lying, but telling them that you’re not when you are keeping something back is lying. No situation exists where a lie serves good.
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Do you tell your wife her meals are great when you know they’re not?
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Your example is a personal opinion. Yes it ok to alter or confide personal opinion to protect someone’s feelings. If an ingredient was missing from the recipe, that is a fact. It is not ok to lie to hide the fact that something was wrong with the recipe to protect the persons feelings.
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Ok. Break down the commandment. Thou shalt not make a false testimony against thy neighbor. That’s not quite the same thing as thou shall not lie. Now, some people are going to claim I’m excusing lying. But I will point out a lot of people will “technically” tell the truth with their words, but their intention was to deceive.
I will point you to Rahab. She told a lie. But did she make a false testimony against her neighbor? No!!
Against in this situation means to harm.you shall not use false words that will harm your neighbor. Rahab infact protected every one involved. She could have been truthful. She could have said. “Sure there here, but you can’t come in”. But that would have gotten both her and the Jewish spies killed. So she lied. And she did lie. But her lie was actually for EVERYONE’S benefit. She protected the Jews. That is clear. But she actually protected the guards who were hunting for the Jews too. She protected them from their own sin. Had they have found the Jews, they would have killed them and been guilty of murder.
(Ultimately they ended up suffering the same fate as everyone else in Jericho, but they still were prevented from this particular sin). So Rahab did lie but her false testimony wasn’t “against” anyone.This does not excuse lying to protect yourself from trouble. Im not excusing so called “little white lies” but this was a unique situation where lying was not “against” anyone and was in fact for everybody’s benefit and it was not a sin.
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You can usually find a way to communicate without lying to keep from hurting someone’s feelings. An example. I went to a voice recital and one of the student’s solo was awful! My ears bled! He asked me afterwards how he had done and I had to think fast! I told him I could tell the song was very special to him and he had sung with great feeling. He left very happy and I had been honest.
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My Husband has told me after I asked him what he thought, “Do you mean would I ask you to make it again?” We should tell the truth but kindly. Now, if saving the life of an innocent person required lying then I would do that.
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LIE IS A LIE
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Speak the truth with love
“This isn’t to my particular taste but I love all the work and effort you put in to make a meal for me.”
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Are you committed to the success of your friend? By not telling them the truth you allow them to fail over and over again. But what ever you tell them, try to give them a way to do better. For example, why doesn’t taste good. Is it too sweet, or too bitter. Does it have too much salt, not enough salt. Try to help solve.
Beware, some people hate being criticized. In which case, tell them that you are committed to their success. That you know how important it is for them to be the best.
One last comment, pray before you offer any type of criticism. And may your words be guided by God.
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I think the thing to is .. Its me not you haha ..
Just kidding kinda ..
One could plitely say I am sure it is very good its everyone has different pallets .. Can I buy you pizza ? LolI do know what you are getting at though …if I am understanding you correctly … You are asking is it is always a sin to lie? I would say 99.99 % percent of the time it is .. But looking the examples of Rahab and the Hebrew spies … She not only lied … She did not submit to the “powers that be ” … Or the Hebrew midwives they also lied and did not submit to the law of the land. … Yet they are considered great acts of faith in Scripture.
No it is not aleays a sin to lie or rebel against the powers that be … But it must be asked is my rebellion and or lie for a righteous cause … And telling the truth would or may shed innocent blood or cause persecution?The powers that be are ordained of God to be minsters unto thee for good and terrors unto evil .. Thier lgitimate authority hinges on this qualification .. In things agreeable to God’s submission and obiediance is required .. But no one has the authority to mandate that you sin … Infact obediance can become sin
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What do you think of the above commenters? Do you think they are stupid? Ooops …. tell the truth or give them compliments? ?
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Only when you’re married, lol.
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It is not necessary for you to lie. Tell your friend how the meal tastes to you. If you lie your friend will ALWAYS have an impression that the meal tastes good. Besides your friend went all the way (work really hard so you said). So it is best to tell how the meal tastes according to you. If it hurts at least you are honest; help your friend to impossible their meal for people with your taste.
Besides LIE leads to sin or death (Genesis 3) and is not in the nature of our Lord God.
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Lying lips are an abomination. Tell the truth.
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Haha. I would tell truth but with a loving, comical touch in that instance. The truth should always be told. But what matters more is delivery. In order to properly deliver the truth, you should have a good feel for that person’s personality and what triggers them. Remember, love is not rude. Truth (God) is love. So, at all costs be honest but not malicious or mean hearted. Telling the truth, even if it can slightly sting to hear, will also build up a person’s confidence in you. Your character is on the line if you choose to lie.
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I would only say something if it was meat and wasn’t cooked to a safe level I. E chicken that’s still raw in the middle. However I’d do it kindly. I also rarely dislike food even if it is badly cooked. My auntie used to boil the life out of veg when we went to visit, then I went to stay as a teenager. Be grateful for the food you are getting and count your blessings my mum used to say!
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Ask any newlyweds in here, lol.
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